Valentines evening was spent with my beautiful wife over a glass of wine at a local eatery by the name of, “The Barn.” It’s located in Mont Kiara, Kuala Lumpur, our current stop on our travels that we decided to do this year.
For those of you who don’t know, Carli and I got married on January 3rd of this year. It’s coming up on two months….Time flies.
We had a great day that far exceeded our expectations and were enormously blessed by our family and friends.
So why am I writing this? I’ve talked to a lot of different young men over the past year that were wanting to get married, but a lot of them didn’t truly understand why she was worth marrying. They obviously fell in love with her for their own reasons, but when the idea came up of spending the rest of their lives together, fear and delays became the norm.
Now I know this article won’t apply to everyone out there, but if you’re looking at getting married, it’s important to make sure you make the right decision.
So here is my 11 Signs Why She’s Worth Marrying…
1. She shares your values
This is probably the most important part for me. She has to be on-board with and share your values. Spirituality, kids, sex, family, life and even divorce. If your future wife doesn’t see eye to eye with you, you’re better off finding someone who does.
2. She understands your vision
She get’s you. Your vision, your dreams and ambitions. She knows that you’re willing to do whatever it takes to achieve those dreams. She supports your vision for family and how both of you want to build your life together.
3. She respects and honors you
Respect goes both ways, but it’s important for your future wife to understand the traits that accompany respect and honor. It’s not about submission or control, it’s about companionship. If she respects you, she truly supports you, understands you and loves you.
4. She doesn’t just think about herself
Selfishness is the root of all misunderstandings in marriage. I can’t begin to stress how many arguments could be avoided if selfishness was left outside of marriage. Yes, as humans we are naturally selfish, but if she has learned to understand the root of it and overcome it, you’re setup for a winning relationship.
5. She puts your relationship first
She goes out of her way to show you that you come first. Whether it’s standing up for you, always talking highly of your relationship and you as a person or just cancelling plans because something important to you came up that needed attention. It’s you and her for life. Make sure she shares that same view.
6. She is your best friend
She should be the one you can’t wait to speak to everyday, the one that you share everything with, the one that laughs at your jokes, understands your moods and finishes your sentences. Friendship is the base on which your marriage is built. Don’t overlook it.
7. She is attractive
There is a person out there for everyone and therefore it’s important that your wife is attractive to you. Would you be able to wake up 40 years from now and still see the beauty that you married? Our outside appearances might change overtime due to aging, but the person you married 40 years ago is still by your side.
8. She is a hard worker
This obviously differs from guy to guy, but for me it’s important to have a wife that isn’t afraid of working. I’m not saying she has to take care of everything whilst you sit back, but running a household with kids eventually is a lot of hard work. It isn’t all about the laundry and the dishes, it’s about the love she has for you which leads to serving, support and working hard.
9. She strives to always be better
It’s important that your future wife focuses on developing herself as she matures into the woman she was always intended to be. Growth is important in marriage and having a wife that believes in bettering herself everyday is a win, win situations.
10. She knows what she wants in life
She needs to know what she wants in life. Being held up with decisions and misunderstandings because of it is avoidable if she knows where she wants to go in life. This accounts for her personal life and you as a couple.
11. She is able to stand up for herself
She should have her own say. Being a walkover won’t help your relationship. If she disagrees, she should be able to stand up and say something about it. It’s not about ruling, but more about working together.
That’s my take on 11 signs for you. Now some of you might say that I missed out on having her put God first all the time. In our relationship God isn’t part of our priority lists, he is our lives. Therefore God comes first automatically in everything we do. If you were to put God on a list, you’d only focus on him for a few minutes of the day and that’s not how we live our lives.
What would you add to this list of worthy signs? Let me know below.